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Wednesday, April 28, 2010

What does a Train Wreck, Jesse James, and Tiger Woods have in common?

I find it interesting how we all really enjoy a good train wreck, the more gruesome the better. Two very recent train wrecks we have all basked in have been the ruining of the marriages of Tiger Woods and Jesse James.

We have all heard the sordid details of sexual escapades involving these men and some very questionable women. I find it funny how many people commented on how they could not believe what bad taste these guys had as opposed to the cheating in and of it self.

In a recent People Magazine article it discloses not only the fact that Sandra Bullock has indeed filed for a divorce but apparently had already been secretly in the process of adopting a 31/2 month old baby boy. It appears that before the infidelity bomb exploded Sandra wanted to add another child to the family roster already consisting of three of Jesse’s children from a previous relationship.

Train wrecks being what they are, I must ask just what have we learned, if anything, from all this? Men are pigs? Women should take better care of their pigs? Is a little money a dangerous thing when melting a hole in a guy’s pocket? Yes, I am trying to shed a little humor on a potentially heavy subject but I think that we can get something real out of these displays of public laundry washing.

Lets take a close look at our own relationships. How healthy are they? Do not ask “What have you done for me lately?” instead ask “What have I done for you lately?” If you are not happy with the level of intimacy that you have been receiving a quick look in the mirror should be your first option before going on the attack. How intimate have you been? How emotionally available have you made yourself? Have you taken care of yourself and remained as desirable to your mate as you were when you first met? DO you listen? Do you complain incessantly? Sometimes it is us who create the beast that we live with.
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Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Congratulations Psyche for winning the Miss Philippines Earth Title!!

A very good friend of mine recently won the Title of Miss Philippines Earth. She will be heading to Vietnam soon to compete for the Miss Earth title. This young woman is truly deserving of this crown because she is a very kind, considerate, very intelligent, and of course beautiful person. From the time that I first met Psyche I have always seen her as a driven individual with definite opinions about the world around her.

She is not a child of comfort and convenience and has worked for hard for most of the opportunities that have come her way. It is because of this that I want to spotlight her accomplishment.

It takes a certain self confidence to stand before a panel of judges who are going to be critical of every aspect of your being. Dealing with the other candidates in a highly competitive environment also offers up its own set of challenges. By believing in herself and making the decision to do the very best that she could, Psyche stepped up to the plate and hit herself a life changing home run.

Lets all follow her in the coming year to see how she blossoms into the life of a celebrity beauty queen. ;o) 
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Monday, April 19, 2010

Thank you Big Daddy Richards of Traders Hub ;o)

I remember when I first started my blog. I was full of ideals and ideas. I had a message to deliver. I wanted to say something and I
wanted people to listen. I…I…I…I……

After having been a blogger for a relatively short period of time the realization has set in that a successful blog cannot be attained by “I”. I cannot after all be the only one reading my own posts. I cannot just sit in front of my computer agreeing with myself and wondering who this brilliant guy is writing all this deep and life changing stuff. (;o))

I have said from the beginning that my goal was to “build a community of like minded people”. Where there are numbers there is power. That was, and still is, my vision. Reality says that not everyone will agree with what I have to say. My argument is that disagreement breed’s discussion and when you discuss things with an open mind, every person in that conversation comes out of it a better person thus accomplishing another one of my stated goals which is to help people “be the best that they can be so that they can better take care of those that they love and care for”.

I have joined several communities of blog authors whose intent is to promote their sites via interaction with other site authors. One of these is Entrecard. I have found Entrecard to be an excellent platform to promote SFI and at the same time build friendships.

Basically Entrecard allows you to advertise your site on other sites by displaying a small banner ad someplace on the other site. (Hopefully at the top of the fold and not at the bottom of the page where you have to go searching for it…oh ahem excuse me…that is another post (;o)) You have to submit your site to the site you want to advertise on for that site’s approval to allow your site to be displayed. Believe it or not, my wholesome “G” rated site has been declined two times since being at Entrecard. Such is Democracy right?

Thus we come to the point of this post. While I respect the right of those sites to decline my site being advertised on theirs, I cannot help but wonder what it was about my site they disliked or did not agree with. I personally approve all sites that want to advertise their banners on my site.

Case in point: In the Philippines there is a Presidential election looming on the horizon. The lines have been drawn in the sand and it appears that it has come down to a struggle between two candidates; Senator Manny Villar and Senator Noynoy Aquino. There is a site called Traders Hub authored by no other than Big Daddy Richards. He is without a doubt a staunch supporter of Noynoy. His site’s banner is Noynoy and he devotes a good number of his site’s posts to Noynoy via negative posts about Manny. I on the other hand believe that Manny Villar is the man for the job. 

President Manny Villar
One day I find that Traders Hub advertised on my site. This would mean that his “Noynoy for President” political banner would appear on my site. What should I have done? Well, I did not have a problem with it. Why might you ask? It is because I am a member of a community of people that all do what they do because they want others to hear what they have to say, have ideals and ideas, and messages for their fellow man. Entrecard does not allow porn sites so what do I have to be worried about, right?

It is with this post that I want to thank Big Daddy Richards. I mentioned earlier that he posts, what I consider, attacks against Senator Manny Villar. I have on 2 occasions left comments on his site regarding topics he decided to pursue against Manny. My comments were in direct contrast to what he had to say. My comments were as much against his candidate as his posts were against mine. When I pushed “submit comment” I was not sure my comments would see the light of day, but to Big Daddy Richards credit, he published both comments in their entirety.

I applaud this and believe that he deserves a pat on the back. We can be political polar opposites and still be blogging friends. I appear on his Entrecard drop list and I have his drop list on my site. I think that we are both better people for this and as such, I am accomplishing my goals pertaining to why I became a blog author in he first place.
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Friday, April 9, 2010

Do your kids have a "Right" to privacy?

We all demand a right to our privacy. There is a valid concern for who knows what about you. Everything from financial information to that brown shoe box that you keep stashed on the top shelf in the back of your closet. Lives, relationships, businesses, and even governments have been toppled because some piece of privileged information has fallen into the wrong hands.

What I would like to know is what you think about your child's right to privacy. When he/she is old enough to want to keep her/his bedroom door locked. Cell phones, internet, who their friends are, and where they go when they leave the house. What is your stand? Do you have a right to know? Do you think you should know?

For me, I want to know everything about my children. Where they go, what they do, who they know. I do not allow them to lock doors in the house. I have access to cell phones and internet accounts. I know their friends parents. Do I always exercise my right to "invade" all of these areas of their developing lives? I do occasionally with no rhyme or reason. With no malice of forethought, it is just something I do. It is something they expect. They do not mind either because it has always been that way.

We need to know everything about our children and their lives. This lessens the possibility of ever having to say, "I wish I knew".

P.S. My good friend over at fledgling blogger is celebrating his 100th post. In connection with this momentous occasion he is holding 2 contests to help spread some happiness to his readers as well. Click HERE to check out his site and how to enter both contests. GOOD LUCK! ;o)  
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